People always say things change when you become a parent and that it is an indescribable feeling. Well, as cliché as it may sound, that couldn’t be truer! The day you were born, it’s like our hearts were reset or something. Everything completely changed. We had whole different perspective now. We had a new purpose in life, and that was to help shape a human being into a kind, loving, and genuine person.
I can’t lie and say I wanted babies all my life. In fact, at some point in my life I said I could never see myself as a mother. Things changed and after being with your dad for a little under 10 years, we had a change of heart and decided we wanted to become parents.
Of course we were scared to death of being responsible for another human being, but I have to say, it was the best decision we ever made. Your dad and I do not come from perfect families, actually it’s quite the opposite, but because of our struggles, we now know exactly what we want and don’t want when it comes to raising both of you.
Before your arrival, we tried to get our ducks in a row. We had a home of our own and everything ready. As you know, in our Hispanic culture, it is normal and ok to live with other family members, but that was one thing we clearly did not want for us. We wanted to start a brand new chapter with our own little family.
Being on our own is great but it also comes with challenges of its own. Things are not how they used to be, where we could rely on other family members to help out to the extent that they used to. However, we are still very blessed to count with your grandparents and aunt whenever we need help and support. Seriously, we owe a lot to them!
Together with our small village, we vow to give you the best life we possibly can. We vow to teach you the things we didn’t learn and expose you to as much of the world as we can. I have to admit, at times I cry because it is a pretty scary place out there, but it comforts me knowing that your dad and I are doing our very best to go the opposite direction and help shape a kind person to share with the world.
There is a lot we do not know, and because of that we ask for a lot of patience from you. I know we are the ones supposed to be teaching you, but loves, in reality, y’all are the ones teaching us. Fortunately, your dad and I are a team, and a great one at that I must say! If you haven’t noticed already, sometimes when one of us is running on empty, the other one is right there to save the day. Please know that is our goal, to always be a team and give you the best we can.
A relative of ours expressed how your dad and I are one of the only couples they know in our family that are actually great together. I have to say, you coming into our life, made our bond THAT much stronger. You make us want to be better. You make us love a little harder.
As you start growing up, we are definitely loving what we are seeing. It is so interesting watching you become your own you. I remember chatting with you the other day and showing you a picture of my classroom. I told you a little about how I was a teacher. The look of confusion in your face was priceless. Yes, before becoming your mom, I was a teacher. I always took care and taught my students to be the best they could be. Now I get to do that with you, my very own babies.
A quote by James Baldwin that was displayed at the first school I taught read “Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.” I loved that quote the day I first read it, but it hit differently when we became parents. Your dad and I are far from being perfect, but we are trying our very best every single day to give you someone worth imitating. Love you so much like you can’t even begin to imagine.
Mom & Dad